It’s difficult to bounce back when life knocks you down. Sometimes, you have to lay there for a bit, waiting to catch your breath when it feels like so many things are coming toward you at one time. In life there are inevitable hardships, but there are ways to pad the process; can you take a hit?
Resiliency is an ability that can be learned and developed over time and with practice. In simple terms, it is your ability to recover. It’s the intentional action of finding a positive outlook in a challenging situation without denying the negative aspects of where you are and continuing to move forward. It is a powerful skill to be able to face problems and look for solutions to obstacles in life.
The problem is, it’s not a skill we’re naturally born with. As adults, we must continue to work at enhancing our skills and finding experiences to contribute to the progression of this ability.
According to psychologist Peter Kramer, resilience, not happiness, it is the opposite of depression: Happy people know how to bounce back from failure. Resilience is like a padding for the inevitable hardship human beings are bound to face.
So his week, you’re not allowed to give up. There is no issue with failing, the problem comes when we decide to stay down. As the Japanese proverb goes, ‘Fall seven times and stand up eight.’
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Fall down seven, stand up eight. You may already be killin the game with a resiliency level on 100 so feel free to pass this cheat sheet along to someone you know or bookmark it for a rainy day when you’re finding it’s a bit difficult to spring back. At the very least, it can be a checklist to make sure you’re on track. If you’re in need to developing the skills, continue below to help you win.
- Keep things in perspective; everything is experience and the journey is the destination.
- Look for opportunities to push you out of your comfort zone. Smooth waters do not create skilled sailors.
- Set realistic goals; reframe the view you have of yourself and others. Keep your expectations practical.
- Celebrate your accomplishments; if you don’t appreciate the good you won’t understand the negative.
- Cultivate a supportive tribe. When you’re in a valley, utilize interpersonal resources like friends and family. People who are there to remind you of who you are and what you are capable of doing.
Thanks so much for following up this week. Let me know how these resiliency tips work for you in the comments below + tag a friend who could also benefit from these skills. Also, be sure to check out the self-care playlist now streaming on Apple Music! See you next week.
Best, Dr. Dyce